Deep relaxation of the nervous system; finding safety in connection. Often done as a group practice, and can also be done as a way to deepen the connection in your relationship, or as a coaching or therapeutic tool in sessions for building relationship intimacy and even assist in resolving trauma and moving stuck energies.
With relaxed breathing, sounding, eye contact, and touch, we let the animal body know that it’s not only safe here, but it is welcome, celebrated and honored. We let the heart know that it is safe to love here, safe to sense and feel, safe to expand and contract, safe to have and trust its own intelligence. Nothing but a series of opportunities to be intimate with the ever-changing present moment.
The primary practice is done in pairs, facing belly to belly at a mutually comfortable level of closeness, and then breathing and sounding in synchrony with each other. While the practice can be profoundly intimate, it is not a sexual practice and is done with clothing on. We will have the opportunity to partner with different people. Partnering can happen in any combination of gender and orientation. All exercises are optional, and boundaries are respected. Be more fully with your Yes, your Maybe and your No!
As we drop in, layer by layer of protection fall away and the dyad becomes the portal in which the relational wounds and traumas are healed. The love goes as deep as one is willing to let somebody else in.
The result is often a deeply experienced peace and joy in relationship to others, a deep sense of being nurtured and loved,
and a joy and a sense of freedom in that you can actually be yourself ~ not just the self you think you need to be in order to be loved, but who you actually are, especially with all that stuff you thought others would not accept you with.
“One of the insights of this practice is that the human body is designed to work not alone but like other primates… the primates and large mammals that we are, we’ve been designed to work in groups, packs, tribes, herds, at the very least couples. So left alone in our own bodies there is only so far our nervous system can let go. There is always a part of us that is vigilant and when we come together in a group, when we come together in a practice like this, a partnered meditation, my nervous system feels your nervous system and we both keep feedback looping and stepping it down to greater and greater levels of connection and safety and oneness and deeper and deeper levels of relaxation. The result is that the vigilance can finally drop.”
“Belly2Belly is a deceptively simple practice that rests on multiple dimensions of neurobiology, pranayama, focused sensory awareness, tantric ritual, intimate communion, witness consciousness, sound entrainment, sequenced relaxation, psychological regression, shadow work, neurolinguistic programming, wizardry and primate zoology. The exercises are designed to dissolve the Western experience of separate self into rhythmic waves of sensation and feeling that are shared with a partner in real time. What results is a profoundly felt sense of peace and connection, a natural biochemical high that neuro-mirrors intimate love, meditative samadhi and mystical oneness.”
~ Belly2Belly founder David Cates